Couple Therapy & Marriage Counseling Services
Whether you are married, living together or in a long term relationship, living in harmony and feeling loved and valued is usually the goal that we all aspire to achieve. When we choose our partner, we are naturally hoping that this is someone who will be our best friend, our confidant, our lover and possibly the parent to our children. We may even plan to grow old with this person, but then over time, or sometimes it feels like overnight, it can all change. What happened? So many things, and sometimes just little things become bigger and then the feelings start to change. Instead of feeling connected and part of a team, you start to feel stuck, detached, and resentful. It is hard to point the finger at just one cause, usually it is a combination of issues.
When should couple counseling be your priority?
- When you are not feeling heard or supported
- When you have repetitive arguments
- When you have power struggles
- Poor communication
- You feel frustrated and resentful
- There is a lack of trust
- There are unresolved issues
- You feel detached and alone
- You are falling out of love
The list can go on and on. The important thing to remember is that if there was a time when you did feel love for this person, deep love, caring and attraction, then it is possible to get it back again.
The problem is two-fold. You have all these hurt and angry feelings you want to resolve, yet you don’t have the skills or training to do so. You find yourself in a continuous loop of arguing, distancing and trying again without ever resolving the issues. Of course it is frustrating and discouraging. There was no Relationship 101 taught at school and most people communicate to their partner the same way they saw their parents communicate. That is the reason why couple counseling can be so effective. You will learn the tools and skills to equip you to communicate effectively and resolve issues finally.
In an intimate relationship, it is very easy for feelings to get hurt, wires to get crossed, and misinterpretations can build up defenses. In these cases, it is best for couples to be able to sit down and discuss the situation calmly in a safe and non-judgemental environment, with an objective, experienced professional. Here you will receive guidance and the tools to solve the problems and develop a deeper connection
As a couple and marriage counselor, and a published author, with over 25 years of experience, my goal is to understand the problems from the perspective of both partners. To find better solutions and more satisfying ways of being together. I will teach both of you how to communicate and respond better to situations so that you are ultimately happier in your relationship and your life. The purpose of relationship counseling is to help couples establish a stronger bond, a deeper connection, and a clearer understanding of one another.
Through couple counseling, you will learn how to:
- Express your needs clearly and openly without resentment or anger
- Be assertive without being aggressive
- Communicate clearly and calmly
- Feel heard
- Validate each other
- Regain trust and respect
- Reconnect and rebuild
- Live happily ever after
Marriage and couple counseling offers a safe environment for expressing your disappointments, resentments and needs. It can bring peace, understanding and stability back into your relationship and significantly improve your lives and those of your children.
Research has shown that at the end of couple therapy, 75% of couples are better off and their relationship has improved considerably.
I will help you to identify the challenges you are facing as a couple and begin a dialogue geared towards improving your relationship and solving conflicts. By doing so you will be able to take charge of your lives and bring back love, harmony and feeling reconnected with your life partner.